Surf and turf. Yin and yang. Peas and carrots.
Writers and rejection.
They all go together.
If you’re going to be a writer, criticism and rejections are inevitable. The mega best-selling Pulitzer Prize winning book, To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee has 58,114 one-star ratings on Goodreads. See?
But what should you do if you love to write but hate rejection? You must change the way you think about it, which will change the way you feel about it.
As the authors of ‘Go for No!‘ a book that teaches people how to embrace failure and rejection to achieve success, we have some suggestions. (As it turns out, these came in wildly helpful to us as we began our fiction-writing careers!)
#1: Rejection is OK.
Dita Von Teese said, “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” Your work won’t be for everyone. The reason someone dislikes your writing is the exact reason why someone else will love it. We all have our likes, dislikes, and opinions. They are not “wrong” or “right” they just are. The sooner you get that, the sooner you’ll feel free of being hurt or fearful. It truly is not about you. It is all about them. And if they’re mean about it? That says even more about them.
#2 Fail Your Way to Success.
If it is something you love to do, the only way to “fail” as a writer is to quit. And, when one of the most famous and successful writers of our time talks about the power of failure, you need to pay attention. JK Rowling said during her Harvard Address in 2008: “You might never fail on the scale I did, but some failure in life is inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.”
#3 Don’t Quit… but Do Learn
Sociologist Benjamin Barber said, “I don’t divide the world into the weak and the strong, or the successes and the failures… I divide the world into the learners and non-learners.”
As you get rejections or criticisms, the important thing is to never let them deter you. But, you can always learn from them especially if you hear the same thing over and over. When you can view your failures as learning – and if you truly love writing – then no time is ever wasted. It’s just you practicing and getting better at your craft.
If someone criticizes your writing, rejects a submission, or gives you a negative review – let it go. The road to yes is paved with lots of no’s. But if you love to write or if you want to be published, whatever you do, never say “no” to yourself!
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